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Modern Amazons by Bill Dobbins
The amazing book publisher Taschen has released a coffee-table book called Modern Amazons, a photo book depicting women who build their muscles to capacity. The book claims to be “exploring their significance as the first women in history to look like this and considering the meaning that this kind of body has for our society, our knowledge of the physiological possibilities of the female body, the aging process, our sense of the erotic, and our expectations as to what is 'feminine' and appropriate to our traditional sense of female gender identity.” Whether it’s your ideal of beauty or not, the muscle-laden women in this book provide a true fascination. MORE INFO

Once Bitten Once Bitten by Adrian Hunter and Chelsea Shepard
It isn’t easy being an evil genius. Just ask Donovan Grant, author of the Internet’s first foolproof copyright-protection software. Hollywood adores him, but he’s no hero to the millions who loved downloading free copies of their favorite TV shows. Insanely rich, or maybe just insane, he blew his royalties on a private island in the Caribbean where he pursues his not-so-private obsessions, like photographing young ladies bound in expensive leather and posting the results on his no-cost web site, exsx.org. MORE INFO

Something Just Clicked Something Just Clicked by Adrian Hunter
Something Just Clicked is the second of three anthologies of Adrian Hunter’s short stories. This volume includes Hunter’s first bondage serial, “The Rubbermaid Chronicles,” the amazing adventures of a young girl who becomes intimately acquainted with the myriad definitions of “service.” It also features edgier works like “Knotical,” in which an unexpected telegram leads a woman on a dizzying ride from her office through the city to the local marina and far beyond. MORE INFO

Crash Your Party Dress Crash Your Party Dress by Adrian Hunter
Crash Your Party Dress is the first of three anthologies of Adrian Hunter’s BDSM stories. For readers not familiar with his library, Hunter’s work has been described as moody, atmospheric fiction with a bondage twist. Unlike classic erotica, these stories aren’t polite pornography that exist simply to titillate. Hunter delves deeper into the human psyche to the place where irrepressible sexual preferences collide with social mores and conventions, that unknown part of the brain where torture becomes an expression of the deepest love and respect.MORE INFO

Footsucker Footsucker by Geoff Nicholson
I recommend this witty, absorbing book to all foot fetishists. Written by one (I heard Mr. Nicholson on NPR where he admitted such), this piece of fiction—a quick read—shows clearly the love and inspiration brought by something as simple and mysterious as a woman’s beautiful foot. MORE INFO

Dick For a Day Dick For a Day Edited by Fiona Giles
“What would you do if you woke up with a penis?” This question was put to women artists, scholars, performers, writers. . .women as varied as Sidney Biddle Brown and Germaine Greer. In her introduction, Ms. Giles writes that women’s experience of the penis range from the sublime to the ridiculous. The answers to this outrageous question—serious, humorous, and sometimes strange—bear this observation out. MORE INFO

Sex Lives: A Sexual Self-Portrait of America Sex Lives: A Sexual Self-Portrait of America by Mark Baker
A provocative and genuine portrait of Americans exploring their sexuality in their own words. They reveal their most intimate thoughts and feelings on everything from losing virginity to coming out, from what makes a good lover to the pros and cons of adultery, sex after marriage and sexual practices both ordinary and bizarre. Candid anecdotes show sex in all it’s variety—accompanied by love, jealousy, anger, joy. MORE INFO

Fetish Fashion, Sex & Power Fetish Fashion, Sex & Power by Valerie Steele
Where peversity meets fashion. Ms. Steele writes about the meaning of fetish garments through history, from shoes to corsets, rubber to leather, black nylons to panties. She explores the sexual fantasies played out in dress and the disappearing boundary between 'normal' and 'perverse'. MORE INFO

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Satyricon USA Satyricon USA by Eurydice
A series of voyeuristic snapshots of the fringe world of American sexuality at the millenium’s end, in all it’s kinky, confused and transgressive expressions. Dungeons, blood-letting clubs, cross dressing conferences, strip emporiums, military bases and Catholic monasteries. A unique blend of reportage, memoir, research and incisive analysis. MORE INFO

Lip Service Lip Service by M.J. Rose
Wonderful fiction for a lazy afternoon. On the surface Julia’s life is enviable—she’s affluent, happy in marriage and as a mom, and in her work as a journalist. But when one of her writing assignments exposes her to phone sex her erotic fantasies are stirred and she confronts evil, perversity and her own strange passions. A fun piece and good blend of fiction and psychological insight. MORE INFO

Defending Pornography Defending Pornography by Nadine Strossen
Our society tends to view sex as inherently dangerous, says Ms. Strossen, the current president of the ACLU. In this well-written book, she puts forth compelling arguments that sexual expression receives second class status under the First Amendment. MORE INFO

The Joy of Cybersex The Joy of Cybersex by Deb Levine
Tips on how to flirt, meet your soul mate (or at least get a decent date) and fulfill your real-life sexual fantasies in the safe world of cyberspace. MORE INFO

Sexual State of the Union Sexual State of the Union by Susie Bright
Called “the x-rated intellectual” by the San Francisco Chronicle Ms. Bright offers a blunt, entertaining book on the progress, hypocrisy and general state of U.S. sexual culture. MORE INFO

The Best American Erotica 1999 The Best American Erotica 1999 Edited by Susie Bright
Just like her five previous anthologies, Ms. Bright’s ’99 collection of erotic stories cuts across the sexual spectrum, all carefully chosen—and stimulating. MORE INFO

Sweet Talkers Sweet Talkers by Kathleen K.
Written by a woman who ran her own sex-talk business in the late 80’s. Includes excerpts from phone conversations, which are interesting if not always sexy. Sweet Talkers gives an honest portrayal of the minute-by-minute phone sex business. MORE INFO

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The Story of O The Story of O by Pauline Reage
Written in pieces by a woman for her lover in an effort to maintain his sexual interest in her (it worked), The Story of O is the most famous piece of literature on the giving and taking of power in an intimate relationship. MORE INFO

Talk Dirty To Me Talk Dirty To Me by Sallie Tisdale
Beautifully written prose about the author’s exploration in mind and body of her own sexuality. Ms. Tisdale writes on sexual jealousy, the sexual revolution, prostitution, fetishism, pornography and more in an essay style that’s without inhibition. MORE INFO

His Mistress' Voice His Mistress’ Voice by G.C. Scott
A man’s journey to sexual liberation through bondage and discipline in a work of fiction that has been compared to The Story of O. MORE INFO

Fetish Girls Fetish Girls by Eric Kroll
These provocative and stylish images by a master of fetish photography presented in a high quality coffee table book format will undoubtedly inspire your personal D/S fantasies. MORE INFO

Going Down Going Down
This little book bills itself as “the best written words on a great oral tradition”... It includes Norman Mailer’s musings about oral sex as prelude; Harold Brodkey on oral sex as a refuge for those who have lost faith in fucking; Gay Talese, in an excerpt from Thy Neighbor’s Wife, lauding the dependability of the tongue. It’s a baudy, whimsical, instructional, and, uh, gratifying exploration by many wonderful writers. MORE INFO

1000 Dessous, A History of Lingerie, by Gilles Neret
A book that lovers of lingerie will enjoy and fetishists will treasure. Its 767 pages are packed with lingerie-related tidbits of interest and depict lingerie through the ages as used in erotic movies, advertising, S&M, and more. The introduction of mini-skirts is decried as being the downfall of the most traditionally beautiful underpinnings. (Of course, the transition to short skirts was accompanied by the wearing of pantyhose which itself has become an object of fetishistic delight.) Photos fill the pages; copy is brief and informative. MORE INFO

A Glimpse of Stocking, by Elizabeth Gage
This dramatic story is about two gorgeous women who discover they are one another’s sister. It’s a great story but it’s the sexual dynamic with their men that will knock X-talk customers’ panties off. MORE INFO

A Different Loving A Different Loving, by Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs
This book was, for me, a revelation. It gave voice to areas of interest that I had and was just beginning to explore. Chapter headings run the gamut from Spanking to Ageplay to Transgenderism—in each, the topic is explored (what it is, the “hows”, etiquette, etc). Over the years I’ve gotten to know several contributors who were interviewed for this book; they are credible, sane, and their insights make fascinating reading. MORE INFO

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Pain & Passion, A Psychoanalyst Explores the World of S&M, by Robert J. Stoller, M.D.
The late Dr. Stoller, who was a professor of psychiatry at UCLA School of Medicine, conducted extensive research on pornography and consensual sadomasochism. His studies on gender identity and erotic behavior are fascinating. For example, he posits that men are “more perverse than women in the sense that men, far more than women, practice most of the perverse conditions . . . such as fetishism, transvestism, voyeurism, and exhibitionism (because) little boys must perform an act of separation from their mothers not required by little girls.” Hmmm . . . even if this isn’t exactly so—and who’s to say, really—it at least gives a place to begin one’s understanding. Dr. Stoller’s other books include Porn: Myths for Our 20th Century; Observing the Erotic Imagination; Sexual Excitement: Dynamics of Erotic Life; and Perversion: The Erotic Form of Hatred. MORE INFO

The Art of Sensual Female Dominance The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women, by Claudia Varrin
It’s not really what Ms. Varrin, a professional dominatrix, says on the topic of female dominance/male submission that is different, but the way she says it. I felt a real kinship with the thinking of this woman: it’s the connection of mind, heart, and soul that make the D&S dynamic work. This is a very special book for men, women, and couples wanting to explore the excitement and closeness and intense eroticism of D&S. MORE INFO

Fetish, An Anthology Fetish, An Anthology edited by John Yau
Mr. Yau approached his compilation of fetish-themed short stories intellectually. He refers to Freud, Marx, and Picasso in his introduction . . . but in the end Mr. Yau ended up with a book that is a perfect guilty pleasure. The first story I read was “Love for $17.50” (by Charles Bukowski) . . . about sex (indeed, love!) with a mannequin. I read subsequent stories with compulsive eagerness. This book is fetishism served with a light heart and lots of fun. MORE INFO

Sexual Investigations Sexual Investigations, by Alan Soble
This professor of philosophy examines the philosophical, ethical, and political issues surrounding human sexuality. It’s an entertaining read about all things sexual: the nature of “the act”, the ethics of sexual conduct, pornography, masturbation, perversion, and more.

Dr. Soble ponders masturbation: It . . . “is sex with someone I care about, to whose satisfaction and welfare I am devoted; it is incestuous; if I’m married, it is sex with someone who is not my spouse and hence adulterous; it is homosexual; it is often pederastic; it is sex we occasionally fall into inadvertently.” No wonder “masturbation was the straw that broke Joycelyn Elders’s back.”

Finally, owning a business that caters to those with secrets, Dr. Soble asks the very question I love to ponder: “What (I like to add “and who”) defines “healthy” sexuality?” MORE INFO HARDCOVER   MORE INFO SOFTCOVER

The Butch and Other Erotica The Butcher and Other Erotica, by Alina Reyes
My first exposure to “The Butcher” was an audio cassette given to me as a gift. The lyrical and sensual language enchanted . . . and I bought the book to savor the words. It’s a short story about a young Frenchwoman who goes to work in a butcher’s shop. Every day the butcher, repulsive in his blood-stained apron and big beefy hands, whispers obscenities in her ear, describing their imagined lovemaking. At first the girl is repulsed, but as the summer heat takes hold, so does her lust. MORE INFO

Venus in Furs and Selected Letters Venus in Furs and Selected Letters, by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch
A true story . . . Reality and fantasy aren’t just intertwined, they’re indistinguishable. Severin makes a contract with Cruel Mistress Wanda, giving her absolute power over him. It’s the same pact that Sacher-Masoch had signed with Fanny Pistor in December of 1869. MORE INFO

Sensuous Magic Sensuous Magic, by Pat Califia
The perspective of this respected writer is invaluable in dispelling the negative, oppressive mythology built up about S/M—and creates a compelling image of “sensual magic” as being the driver in sadomasochistic sex play. A good how-to for beginners wanting to explore bondage, caning, whipping, anal play, and more. MORE INFO

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