May 2007

Forced to Suck…and Loving Every Minute Of It
Dear Jane,

I’ve had a few “forced” bi experiences. Am I gay because of these incidents? What if I only want to suck cock if beautiful women are watching? I don’t think about doing it alone with a guy.

Let me explain. My first “forced bi” experience happened this way: The I was with three girls and one other guy. The girls got me hot and horny then switched everything around on me by getting me to give the guy a hand job instead of getting any sexual gratification myself.

My second time was a blowjob that I was forced to give two or three times during the course of about two hours. First I sucked the guy’s dick with a condom on, then I sucked him naked with out any condom and I swallowed his load. Believe me it was very “forced” as you would have been able to tell by my crying that took place during my humiliation. I didn’t want to be forced; it just happened that way.

But ever since this “training” I have loved the idea of having a voluptuous, sexy woman getting off on my humiliation and degradation as I suck off another male and swallow his load. My most recent girlfriend also got me to suck another guy’s cock, although I begged and pleaded for her not to make me do it.

Since these incidents, my search for cock has basically been through the Internet, watching blowjob pornography. I guess being a cock-sucking sex slave for the past few years has changed the way I look at homosexuality.

Before all this, I was into rough sex porn and bondage porn, always with the girl tied up, getting her hair pulled as she was fucked. When I masturbated to this I would imagine I was the girl getting fucked.

Do you think it’s bad for me to want to be forced by girls who like to watch male-on-male humiliation? I don’t consider myself gay, but secretly and privately I would admit to being a homo. But only to the right woman like your beautiful sexy self.

When I sucked a guy’s dick for the first time there were two girls watching, big tittied, beautiful girls. So my problem isn’t with the women themselves, it’s what they’re watching me do with other guys that concerns me. Because I know sucking dick is for woman only and any male that does it is a bitch, and I can’t let my guy friends know that I am secretly a bitch inside, or my parents, it’s only okay if pretty girls know. Do you understand, Jane?

Secret Bitch

Dear Bitch,

Yes, baby, I understand. You wonder whether you’re bisexual. Well, doll, you walk like a duck and quack like a duck…the difference between you and most bisexual men is that you want to do your nasty duck stuff while pretty women look on. Your issue will ultimately be less about whether you are or aren’t and more about the trouble it takes to assemble the cast you require to satisfy your lust.

I am curious by all the “forcing” that’s gone on in your life, as though you’re a prisoner in a forced labor camp. It’s really okay, sweetheart, to admit that you’ve engineered most of this coerced fellatio. As it’s okay to submit to the humiliation of these pretty women. As it’s okay to suck other men’s penises.

But I don’t think you want to admit it. (And that’s okay, too.) Accepting could put a crimp in your craving to be “forced,” which is key to your pleasure because it feeds the erotic humiliation you enjoy. Remember your fairy tales, sweetie? You are Brer Rabbit saying, “Oh, roast me, Brer Fox, but don’t fling me in that briar patch”…when Brer Rabbit wants nothing but.

You don’t need to let your guy friends or your parents know the flavors you like in your sex. It’s not their business. Just, please, baby, leave the condom on for goodness’ sake. A wretched disease could really wreck a duck’s sex life.

Jerking Off Into Old Age
Dear Jane,

I just wanted to ask you if there is a relationship between masturbation and age. I know that many young people masturbate regularly, but I feel some older people masturbate just as much.

I feel that sometimes older people might not be as satisfied sexually so they turn to masturbation…but that might not be the absolute rule.

Do you personally feel that you masturbate more or less as you have gotten older? Also, is masturbation healthy for you as you get older? I heard that it is healthy and it is good to be done on a regular basis.

Also, does the use of dildos decrease sexual satisfaction? Again, personally do you feel less satisfied during sex if you have been using a dildo regularly?

Last question: My girlfriend and I want to try anal sex. Is it as painful as everyone says it is?

Masturbator

Sweet Wanker,

Someone wrote me recently saying he believed that men who write me never do so without a hard-on. I told him to speak for himself, but upon reflection, I have to wonder about you chronic masturbators…especially when you write questions about masturbation itself.

By age 15, almost 100% of boys masturbate, often six times a day (or more). Middle-aged men do so approximately once a day. Some boys get a head start by enjoying their penis in the womb. Sex researchers say that, on average and regardless of whether they have a regular sex partner, men self-stimulate 18 to 22 times a month and that they do it in order to relieve stress, anxiety, and boredom. They say it can lessen depression and lead to a higher sense of self-worth.

In my experience communicating with many hundreds of men, jerking off is primarily about self-comfort, sexual arousal, and erotic entertainment.

With increasing age and decreasing hormones, frequency may lessen but health benefits may be all the more important. In 2003 studies showed that masturbation leading to ejaculation may help prevent prostate cancer. This research is being questioned today.

May is Masturbation Month (yes, really). Look for Masturbate-a-thons in your city if you want to help encourage others to explore safer sex by bringing it out into the open (don’t take that literally, please).

Let’s move on to dildos. Women may use dildos to stimulate the walls of her vagina, particularly her G-spot, for which there are specially designed dildos. Most dildoing you see women do in pornography is for men’s visual pleasure, as most women require clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Adventuresome men use dildos in their back passages to erotically stimulate the prostate. While they pleasure themselves in this manner, they may or may not fantasize about having a red hot, erect penis or a dominant woman pounding them with a strap-on. Whether men or women crave more or less sex with a partner when they use dildos is highly individual.

As for me, I prefer the real thing because I love a warm body and sweet kisses. I care far more about quality in my sex life than quantity of it as I get older. Although quality AND quantity can’t be beat…

Anal sex—whether yours or hers—can be painful if you fail to follow the three golden rules: lubricate, lubricate, and lubricate. It also helps if you’re aroused through plenty of foreplay before sticking anything up your or her booty. And, always, darling, be sure that anything you do put up there has a string or other retrieval mechanism. If what’s attached is a lover, that’s all the better.

Have fun! See you at the Masturbate-a-thon.

Will Jelquing Make It Grow?
Dear Jane,

I’m about 5.5 to 6 inches but I’d like to be 7 so I want to start jelquing. I don’t know a lot about it, but I think there’s no harm in trying it, even if it does not work. My problem is that jelquing requires a 60% erection and I tend to be erect so much of the time, particularly when my hand is on my dick.

Any thoughts or comments and suggestions would be appreciated greatly. I really want to be bigger.

Jelquing Junky

Darling,

Some say jelquing (also spelled jelqing) is an ancient, exotic ritual of penis enlargement perhaps originating in the Middle East where fathers trained their sons in the practice in order to prepare them for sexual intercourse. Call me a cynic, but I wonder if jelquing was more recently conceived by size-obsessed frat boys who couldn’t keep their hands off their dicks.

The idea behind jelquing is that by stretching and squeezing the penis, the ligaments will stretch and spongy body inside the penis will expand. My thinking is that it’s so much like masturbation that, if it worked, wouldn’t a frequent masturbator be hung like a blue whale?

However, my thinking is countered by those who say jelquing is different from jerking off in that it’s done at half-mast and without ejaculation. Proponents say it adds both length and girth to one’s member. One article on the Internet cites research (which I haven’t seen yet myself) carried out in the UK in the 1970s by a Dr. Brian Richards who published in the British Journal of Sexual Medicine. He reported success in 87% of his sample, with an increase in girth of one inch and in length of 1.4 inches.

Jelquing is a popular enlargement technique, partly because it’s free. This is one typical way a jelquing program works: First, warm up your penis with a warm bath or warm, wet towel; increased blood flow to the penis prepares it for the jelquing exercises. Apply lubricant. Curl one hand into the “A-okay” sign and wrap it entirely around your half- to three-quarters-erect penis at its base. This ensures that blood does not escape the penis. Then milk your shaft by stroking downward with your other hand, moving towards the head and forcing the blood toward the tip.

Theoretically, what you are doing is training the penis to hold more blood…more blood, bigger penis. You must not ejaculate during these exercises. And your penis must be one-half to three-quarters erect.

Another method is to “milk” your penis with both hands, alternating between your left and right. Wrap one hand in the “A-okay” manner at the base and stroke your lubricated penis downward gently but firmly outward all the way to, but not touching, the very tip. Make sure that you touch the entire penis from base to head. Do not ejaculate…this is an exercise not a jerk-off session.

You are correct that jelquing exercises must not be performed on a fully erect penis as vascular (vein) damage can occur. site notes that even after one month you’ll notice your penis is both longer and thicker. Another says that you won’t notice anything the first month but after several you’ll notice an increase of one or more inches, with concomitant circumference. After a year, gains of several inches are “not uncommon,” according to Internet sites set up by jelquing fans. They say the gain in size is permanent and that the exercises are beneficial, not harmful. They claim the health and strength of your organ will increase along with its size, both in its flaccid and erect states.

Do 200-300 strokes per day, five days a week, at medium strength for the first week (10 minutes), then 300-500 at medium-hard strength the second (15 minutes), and thereafter 500 or more strokes with a very strong hand (20 minutes and, as exercise goes, it beats running on a treadmill).

If you find yourself getting an erection during this exercise, squeeze harder to discourage it or simply wait until it subsides. You can encourage circulation afterward by slapping your penis up and down awhile. Perform this exercise 5 days a week. Remember to keep your penis only partially erect. If you feel ejaculation coming on, pause milking until the urge subsides. This is itself an exercise…one of self-control.

I remain skeptical, and welcome any of you who’ve tried this method of penis enlargement to write me. Still, like you said, Junkie, it won’t hurt you. Although…I don’t know…I hit the gym regularly and find that exercising with a partner is usually more fun. Just a thought…

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